I am a former #shoutyourabortion acolyte who recently became pro-life. I created a new email because I am terrified you will publish my identity. I have friends whose entire relationship revolved around “women’s right to choose.”
I am 30 years old. I am happily married. My husband and I tried for a baby 6 years ago, and miscarried. We have not tried again, for many reasons. Job reasons, financial, emotional, vanity, etc. We can’t afford a baby at the moment. My biological clock is ticking and demanding that I choose.
I have little attachment to my child being my own biological child. I have a strong desire towards parenting, and raising a child, but not carrying one. I do not want to have a highly technological pregnancy at 40. Pregnancy does not appeal to me. Maybe one day I can save a child from abortion. Maybe I can adopt from foster care. I fantasize about going down to the abortion clinic and holding a sign that says “I will adopt your baby.” Can I do that? Do people do that?
People look at you weird when adoption is your first choice. I just would rather not be pregnant. I understand why women get abortions. Pregnancy is not easy. Taking responsibility for our choices that led us to pregnancy isn’t easy. If I ever get pregnant I will keep the baby.
I am not involved with a church. I have close friends who have had abortions. I am a closeted pro-lifer. I think abortion is inhumane. I know I need to speak out, that there are others like me, but I selfishly don’t want to lose friends.
Anyway, thanks for the link to “debt free adoption”. I will be heavily considering it in the next few years.
You should be very proud of yourself. Very few hardcore abortion advocates are capable of breaking the scales from their eyes. They firmly believe that a woman can never be truly free without shedding the blood of her own children. They have fully embraced the idea that some lives matter less than theirs, especially when those lives belong to their prenatal sons and daughters.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with preferring to adopt a child over conceiving a child. There are thousands of children desperate for the love and security your family can provide them. You mentioned that you can’t afford a child, but I must respectfully disagree. We had three small children while still in college. We both worked minimum wage jobs and scraped by with student loans. Those were some of the best days of our lives, surrounded by the love of our babies.
Regarding your question about trying to save a child from abortion by offering to adopt at abortion facilities, here’s what I can tell you from having actually done just that on many occasions: mothers would rather kill their children than place them for adoption. I know it’s a sad commentary on the human condition, but it’s the verified truth. I have even attempted to adopt children while working to prevent mothers from aborting their babies online. Again, without success.
Since you are now a self-confessed closeted pro-lifer, I will leave you with a few things to seriously consider as you struggle to find your voice. You now know that a child living in the womb holds equal value to any other child. If you would confront your friends for advocating for infanticide, why won’t you confront them for advocating for abortion? If you would confront your friends for ripping the arms and legs off of their toddlers, why won’t you confront them for doing the same to a prenatal child? When you find your voice, others will step out of the shadows and we’ll bring this tragedy to an end. No friendship is worth a child’s life.
Like you, I’m not a member of any church. In fact, I’m one of those rare pro-life atheists, yet I work tirelessly with my Christian friends to end abortion. In other words, if you lose the friendships of those who fight to abort innocent children on demand and without apology, you will gain far better friends in those who fight to protect them.
“The only thing necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.”
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