I’m pro-life and I was wondering what should we (society) do to help unwanted pregnancies not happen because without unwanted pregnancies happening then there wouldn’t be any abortions. I’m asking this because most pro-lifers are religious and they think that remaining abstinent before marriage is the way to go (and it’s not).
As I suspect you know, I’m not religious in the slightest. I fight the killing of prenatal children for one simple reason: it’s wrong. Everyone innately knows this, but some choose to delude themselves in an effort to avoid responsibility.
I agree with you that abstinence is not the answer. For abstinence to work on a large enough scale to end abortion, human nature itself must be changed and that’s not going to happen anytime soon (evolution is a glacial process). A little known fact is that six out of ten children who lose their lives to abortion are killed by mothers who already have at least one child, and many of those women are married. As you can see, remaining abstinent until marriage isn’t going to help much. Sadly, nearly half of the children conceived in America are unwanted by their mothers, and about forty percent of those children are killed.
Ultimately, you are asking the wrong question. What we should be asking is how do we, as a society, learn to value every human being as an equal, equally deserving of human rights. We will never end unplanned pregnancies, which is another way of saying unplanned children, so we must end the idea that the ‘unwanted’ members of our human family should die. This involves returning to a time when abortion wasn’t only illegal, but unthinkable.
How do we do this? We must fight tirelessly to educate those who have adopted the idea that their lives matter more than their own child’s life. We must push back with the reality of what abortion is and what it does to living human beings. And we must do this with the same passion we would exhibit if these people were advocating for killing their toddlers. In other words, we must shift the culture by speaking the truth, even when that truth is difficult for some to hear.