I need help. I need someone.
I’m pregnant. And I’m unprepared. And me and my boyfriend want this baby more than anything. We want this baby more than we want to be in each other’s life. But.. we can’t.
Both of us are working two jobs. He’s about to quit one and start school. We live in a very unstable environment. We can barely provide for ourselves. So we discussed our options…
For the sake of their health, we can’t keep them. It wouldn’t be fair to cart them around to different houses, constantly changing, even if it is for the first couple years.
For the sake of my mental health, I can’t do adoption. I’m only about 3 weeks along (morning sickness just set in), and I’m already thinking of names and shit like that. If I were to carry them to term, just to turn around and give them away… it would destroy me… like. Unable to move for weeks on end, destroy me.
And that leaves one option…
And I can’t do that one either.
It’s almost to the point where I’m hoping they’re ectopic. I don’t want to kill my baby, my first, unless I absolutely have to. But if I carry them, I’m going to want to keep them. I know I can’t and I’m just turning myself in circles. if someone would offer their help or guidance in any way, please… help me…
“I don’t want to kill my baby… unless I absolutely have to.”
Please, for the sake of your living child and humanity itself, please read this back to yourself over and over until what you have said sinks in.
Let’s be honest with each other here. You know that abortion is simply a euphemism for legalized murder, yet you have left it on the table as a last resort. Remember, we are talking about a member of your family, your own son or daughter. This is the gravity of what you are considering.
You claim that placing your child for adoption will ‘destroy’ you. What do you think abortion will do to your baby? It’s their life in your hands. A life that has already begun. As their mother, do you really think you should even be considering this ‘option’? The option to kill?
Life can sometimes be overwhelming, even to the point of wanting to end our own lives or the lives of others. But violence against the innocent, especially a child, is never the answer. You are far stronger than you believe. You have the strength to nurture and protect your child, I promise you. Once you hold them in your arms you will discover something amazing and life changing. You will discover unconditional love in its purest form. And this is where you will draw your strength and find the courage to stand for something greater than yourself.
There are literally thousands of pregnancy centers and other amazing programs, including government assistance, that will empower you to continue to be what you already are — a mother. And if you truly feel that you cannot parent your child, there is another amazing option: open adoption. There are many thousands of people who will adopt your child and allow you to be a part of their lives as they grow up, including myself.
Please call the Option Line at 1-800-712-4357 or text ‘HELPLINE’ to 313131. They will put you in touch with the resources you need to protect the life of your little one.
Here is a small sampling of additional resources you can explore…
- Sisters of Life
- The Nurturing Network
- Good Counsel Maternity Homes
- Teen Breaks
- 1st Way Life Center
- American Pregnancy Helpline
- Teen Mother Choices
- Stand Up Girl
- Life Call
- Financial Help During Pregnancy
- Medicaid & CHIP coverage for children and pregnant women (gov)
- USDA Supplemental Nutrition Program for Women, Infants, and Children (gov)
- Brave Love
- Adoption Connection
- The Adoption Journey
- Adoptions from the Heart
- Bethany Christian Services
- BirthMom Buds
- Birthmother Resources
- Independent Adoption Center
- Child Welfare Information Gateway
- Christian Adoption Service
Together, we can do this. You are not alone!