I recently had an abortion.
I’ve been a life long pro-choice advocate. That did not make the decision any easier. My choice to get an abortion was quite likely the hardest decision I will ever make. I carefully looked at all other options; I considered adoption, I looked at options to keep it, hell, I even tried to see if I knew people who would help me.
When I found out my (ex)fiance was cheating on me, I tried to forgive him but he left me. A week later I found out I was pregnant. I was estimated to be at 5ish weeks. I panicked. I had no one to turn to. My fiance was gone, my family was not supportive, and I had no job. I had nothing. And yet I still tried to find a way.
A few weeks later I had my first appointment with Planned Parenthood. They had to do an ultrasound, test my blood, do an STD screening, and give very graphic details as to what the abortion does. Then I had to wait at least a week to have the actual procedure done. That was the most hellish week (10 days, actually).
When I arrived at Planned Parenthood the morning of my abortion, there was a group of bible-thumping protesters outside. I recognized a few of them. They started yelling at me, “Don’t kill the baby!” “Stop being so selfish!” “Think of the life you’re throwing away!”
I held my head high and I walked in. And then I cried.
I have more anxiety because of the protesters than I do from the actual procedure itself (which is quite emotionally and physically draining).
The thing is, those protesters didn’t know me. They didn’t know my situation, and they sure as hell didn’t know why I was there. I could’ve been there for an STD screening. But they decided to bombard me with their
religious freedomhate anyway.
The decision to get an abortion is not an easy one to make, but sometimes it’s the only reasonable option someone has. Please, if you are reading this and are pro-life, please don’t protest outside of abortion clinics. I understand that you think it’s wrong but if you’re going to try to change things don’t do it then. Host meetings elsewhere, and maybe try to educate people on your beliefs (without shoving them down their throats). And if you’re pro-choice, feel free to use my words in future arguments! And literally anyone feel free to share as often and harshly as you want. <3
I’ll ‘share as often and harshly as I want’.
“I still tried to find a way. I couldn’t.’
You know what? That’s a bald faced LIE. I assume since you are on Tumblr that you know how Google works. One simple search for help would have opened thousands of doors. Including mine. I have offered to openly adopt children facing the slaughter you subjected your child to. I have personally bought cribs, diapers, strollers, baby wipes, and various other baby items for struggling mothers. I have held online baby showers and supported Go Fund Me campaigns. I have donated thousands of dollars to support mothers like you, including volunteering at pregnancy resource centers and working to pass pro-life legislation. I have also stood in front of Planned Parenthood ‘clinics’ with a simple sign offering one thing and one thing only: SUPPORT.
You literally killed your own living son or daughter and now you encourage others to use the story of their death to support the killing of even more children. You are everything that is wrong with the world today. You selfishly put your own needs above the very life of your child. You will forever be defined by what you have done.
But there is hope. You can change the course you are on. You can use your child’s death as a battle cry to save children like yours who are scheduled to die today. Please contact the Silent No More awareness campaign to learn how.
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