(Part2) do not have any, and he finds out about the pregnancy or they find out if I lie in any way, I will have withheld information and will get into serious legal trouble. But I refuse to be silent about the issue and feel like the truth needs to come out so I could help protect other women and their babies. How can I protect my child from a rapist and not be punished for doing so? Did you and your wife face any similar issues with your daughter, and how did you get through them?
This ask references this post.
We did not face these issues directly, although when I adopted our daughter we had to place an ad in our local paper announcing her adoption in an effort to notify her biological ‘father’. After the mandatory waiting period following the advertisement, we were able to move forward with the adoption.
The Senate and House recently passed and the President signed the Victims of Trafficking Act of 2015, providing incentives for states to write legislation preventing rapists from claiming custody of the children their victims so bravely protected and birthed.
As of June 2014, the following states still do not protect mothers of children conceived through rape…
- New Mexico
- New York
- North Dakota
- Rhode Island
- South Carolina
I am not sure what state you are from, but the best advice I can give you is to be honest and then fight like hell to protect your child, no matter what. I read your blog and I am aware that you made the tragic mistake of aborting one of your children under severe coercion. I am also aware that you are torn about letting your immediate family adopt your child versus finding an adoptive family external to your own. I propose a compromise that you may be able to live with: Open Adoption. This arrangement will allow you to visit your child and be a part of their life as they grow up, yet ensures they get the best chance at a good life.
If you ever find yourself so desperate that thoughts of abortion enter your mind, contact me. I will do everything possible to prevent that from happening, including ‘babysitting’ your child for 18 years. You have clearly learned from your mistake and I know you have the strength to do the right thing. Just know that I am here for you, as is the entire pro-life community.
“A mother’s love for her child is like no other love. To be able to put that feeling aside because you want the best for your child is the most unselfish thing I know.” — Mary, American Adoptions Birth Mother.
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