Dear Dr. Patel,

I am writing with a heavy heart. I recently discovered you in the news due to the violations your abortion clinic has made. I found that I have a closer connection to you than I thought.

In 1988, my 13-year-old birth mother placed herself in your care to perform her abortion … her 20-week abortion. She was assured that the abortion would fix her problem and that her life would return to normal, but it didn’t. When she returned to see you, she was informed that the abortion had been successful, in part, but she was still pregnant as she had actually been pregnant with twins but had been misinformed. She was also told that during the abortion the amniotic sac had been ruptured, thus leaking fluid for weeks. This presented many complications for my birth mother. Due to the botched abortion, I was born 2.5 months premature with many lifelong complications.

As I read your medical practice history, I found my testimony consistent with many of your other former patients. My birth mother was 13. She was young and naïve; she would be easy to manipulate and lie to. She didn’t know any better. Due to the abortion that was botched, my birth mother has suffered 26 years of hardship and regret. I can only imagine the things that may have happened that she feels like she can’t speak about… things that other women are confessing that you did to them while in your care.

However, she was not the only one affected by the failed abortion. My life, my family’s life, and my children’s lives would all eventually be affected by one “mistake” or one “botched abortion” that was performed so long ago. Not only was I born 2.5 months premature, but I was born with complications including dislocated hips, club feet, and was on life support in the hospital. I went through multiple casts on my feet, a harness on my hips to prepare for surgery and body casts in order to correct what the abortion had done to my body. In fact, I still have hip and foot complications today due to the abortion. The unfortunate part is that I am not alone. Hundreds of other survivors of abortions are speaking up, letting the world know that we ARE children, we DO deserve a chance at life and that abortion is, clearly, NOT SAFE.

I spent 21 years of my life wondering if I had a sibling that was missing. I felt it in my heart. My birth mother confirmed my questions when she told me about her abortion when I met her. Realizing that you have lived your entire life without your twin is a harsh reality. However, the hardest part for me is realizing that you took my daddy’s only son from him. His life would have been even more full and joyful had he had his son who would carry on his family name and do the things he loves with him—hunt and fish. Because of the selfishness that abortion has brought to us today, our family will remain incomplete and I mourn the amazing adventures my daddy is missing with my brother.

In February of 2013, another miracle happened … My daughter was born! I can’t help but think about how she wouldn’t be here if the abortion had been successful on my life. She has only been here for a short time, but she has touched so many lives with her fun-loving personality. I can’t help but wonder how many children are missing because their mothers were misinformed by you and told that the best decision, or even the only decision, was abortion.

Dr. Patel, I write not only to shed light on the reality of the severe aftermath that can happen when abortions are performed, but to also express my forgiveness to you for what happened. I have lived a full life and been well loved in my 26 years of life despite my circumstances. I was adopted into an incredible home that gave more grace and forgiveness than I ever could have asked for. In the same way I have been forgiven by God for many things, I choose to forgive you. I forgive you for performing the abortion in 1988 and for the enormous impact it has had on my birth mother and me.

I also pray for you. I pray that you are able to see past the medicine, the money and your usual way of life … and that you will remember my face (and my daughter’s who would not be here had the abortion been successful) as you go to perform abortions. I pray that as you remember my face that you will be moved in such a way to walk away from the abortion practice and use your gifts outside of the industry. I assure you that many of us, myself included, would help you leave the industry and be encouragers and supporters to you. I would welcome you with open arms because I fully believe your life and what you do with your life is just as valuable as every single unborn child that I advocate for. I will continue to pray for you and your past and former patients.

Sincerely,
Claire Culwell

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  1. I’m sorry about the loss of your twin, but I mourn the stupidity behind your statement of how the hardest part (really?) was that your dad was deprived of having a son to hunt, and fish with…. Does your dad know that he could have taken you hunting, and fishing? I like to hunt, and fish… I’m a girl. I also love to camp, and sports. My dad did those things with me because he’s not sexist. Is his ego so big, that his family name not getting passed on is honestly one of the main things he regrets about the abortion?? Are you so submissive, that you care about that too, even though YOUR identity gets taken away the second you get married?? But sure, worry about your dads identity getting spread around like lice. What if he only had daughters? What if your brother never even existed to abort in the first place? Your dad one of those jerks who would make it clear he’s disappointedly he’s only had daughters?? Sounds like he already is. I think the only thing more annoying than your submissive, pushover, brainwashed thinking, is the fact that “your daddy not getting a human child who possesses a penis” is THE. MOST. upsetting part of your brother getting murdered. Also, why did your sexist dad knock up a 13 year old…. EW. And stop acting like your mom is some naive dumb ass like you. She knew what she was doing when she decided to get an abortion, she wasn’t 5. She simply didn’t know u were there, and neither did the doctor. If they had aborted you, you would not have even known the difference. So save your barf story about your daughter not existing if you didn’t exist. Everyone thinks their own kids are so cute, and so bubbly, and “bring so much joy to everyone”. Trust me, your the one who gets the most joy from your little ball of snot.

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    1. Please ignore these evil people. You are very brave to stand up to these bullies. They think that they can bully all of the silent majority into continued silence. It’s time to call it what it is murder. I am proud of you for telling your story and I will pray for you to have peace.

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      1. Complacent judgment is sad. May 17, 2018 at 10:56 am

        The silent majority? People like you have bigger mouths than everyone combined. You consider anti-abortionists the silent majority? You don’t consider yourself a bully? Calling someone evil because they don’t believe the same things as you? I’d hate to see what a coward you are if you ever faced real evil. You think changing the world starts with abortion? How about trying to change the world starting with the people who already live in it? If every baby is born, then that’s more people in the world with the potential to grow up into another clueless person who contributes to all of the things already wrong with the world. By writing what you wrote you are no different than any other bully trying to push your beliefs, and so-called values onto other people. I suppose you don’t think the idiots that dance around abortion clinics making all the young girls feel terrible about their decision aren’t bullies? Of course you don’t, because you’re close minded, and you think praying can save you. Jesus wasn’t close-minded, he accepted everybody. So who are you even praying to? I’m also sick of people walking around praying, and acting like they’re Christians yet they don’t do or say anything christ-like. You’re a big, fat, hypocrite. And actually, I’m rather annoyed with myself for even commenting on this whole thing in the first place, because now it’s given this girls post wayyyyy more attention than it deserves. You didn’t care enough to comment on this before, because nobody commented on it, because nobody cared about her sob story until I made my comment on it. Now you want to think you’re some brave hero, who is standing up against bullies, WHEN YOU ARE THE BULLY. Pray all you want, it doesn’t change the fact that you’re a hypocrite. You probably have more sin in your life than any young girl who’s gotten an abortion. Also, learn how to read…. My annoyance doesn’t even come from the fact that she’s against abortion…… So stop acting like some righteous baby saver because you’re not even focused on the correct point. My annoyance comes from the fact that she’s looking for sympathy due to the fact that her family missed out on having a boy child. As though this boy’s personality was predetermined before he even had a chance to be born. I feel far worse for a baby born into a family who thinks they can mold him into what they think he should be, instead of letting him grow up to be himself. If you want to tell your sad abortion story, fine. But I’d like to think you’re sad because you would have liked to meet your twin brother, and not because the gender you are didn’t give your father enough fulfillment. Where was he when the mother was going through this? God knows he’s not the one who had to go through anything with his body, but now he has an opinion on his unborn son because he’s too cool close-minded to take his daughter fishing or hunting? This person claims that abortion is what is wrong with the world. I say people who don’t realize the world needs to change before more babies are even brought into it, are part of what’s wrong with the world. If people want to change the world than they should start with the people who are already living in it. Otherwise those babies eventually turn into adults that are morons. While everybody feels bad for a cute little baby, no one feels bad for an adult moron. So before you go around trying to say anybody’s a bully, maybe learn to read. Or, maybe pray for better reading skills. Hope you don’t cry yourself to sleep tonight.

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      2. Open your mind, or stop reproducing. May 17, 2018 at 11:51 am

        One more thing, there are parts of the world that make this girl’s sob story look like a joke. There are parts of the world where children witness their parents getting shot in the head right in front of them, where getting blown up is an everyday fear, where being thirsty can’t be fixed by running water from a tap, but instead by trekking miles to contaminated water…… And ABORTION is what needs to change about the world? How about you target the REAL murderers! How about you prove that you’re the praying type, and show compassion, and understanding towards these young girls who face choices in situations where they don’t feel like they have any other way out, even if they do, they often times feel like they don’t. Yet there are always bullies like you who try to shame them, and call them murderers…. Well I can think of about 4 deadly sins you’ve broken already just by being that way. I feel far more compassion, and sympathy for children who are born into a life of terror, heartache, or even something as basic, and widely accepted as sexism, than I do for a child who doesn’t even know the difference. I was born much later than my other siblings, people used to ask my mom if she was going to get an abortion. She does not believe in abortion, so here I am. Would I have cared if she did? I wouldn’t have known the difference. You know who does know the difference? People alive, and suffering NOW. What I find the most humorous is that often times people who are against abortion are for the death penalty. So you want to protect the rights of a complete stranger who could grow up to be a serial killer just because they’re a baby, but you’re more than happy to feel like you should make the decision of putting someone to death if they’re an adult, because they’ve had time to prove to you they suck, as opposed to baby who’s too young to convey their sociopathic tendencies quite yet. So if you’re the type who thinks a rapist, murderer should be put to death….. Then you especially need to keep your mouth shut about abortion, because the fact of the matter is you are on board with murder…. It just has to be under your terms. Just like a bully. So again, when someone says something as stupid as abortion being the main problem in our society, then I ask them to explain how abortion prevents people from drinking contaminated, parasite infested water….. Or does that not concern you cause it’s not right on your front door step? What if a rapist murderer got one of his rape victims pregnant? Do you still judge, and shame the woman if she wants to abort the child knowing there’s a high chance of the same brain structure as his murderer father? Or are you only okay with putting that baby to death when he grows up into a grown man who murders? Then is it ok with you? Do you think God would be happy with you acting like you have the right to make life decisions for others? And though you can possibly even begin to understand that person’s situation without actually being in their shoes. I also find it very agitating when people act like the fact that they weren’t aborted was a gift to the world, as though their mom did the huge World a huge favor by bringing them into it. Great, more people who can feel sorry for themselves while they grow up in a first world country, what’s first world problems, and therapists at their disposal to work through their first world issues….. And I’m supposed to feel bad for them. No thanks. Or how about this? Spend your energy, time, thoughts, prayers, and compassion toward the people who are alive now on this Earth, and maybe it will eventually lead to people having less abortions? Maybe the change in the world should start with less slut-shaming of women? Then maybe they won’t feel so lost when they’re in a position of feeling like their only escape is abortion, while people like you judge them instead of help them emotionally. Maybe then more women would be less ashamed to have their babies, because they’d have Society backing them up instead of shutting them and calling them sluts. Maybe we should raise men to be just as picky about who touches their bodies as we raise women to be. Maybe then all the pressure won’t be on women, and they won’t feel so alone when they’re in a position like that. Maybe maybe maybe. Maybe one day your mind will grow bigger, or maybe one day you’ll die just as ignorant as you came into this world. Some people go their whole lives never seeing outside the box they were raised in. I can only hope that one day you’re capable of crawling out of that box. I’ll pray for you.

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  2. One more thing, nice to know having a penis predetermines your fate in your family. What if your brother hated to hunt, and fish. What if he remained a happy bachelor his whole life? What if he didn’t even like women enough to pass on your dad’s ego, I mean name? What if he was (gasp!) gay? WHAT IF he got reincarnated into a more accepting family? Or are you unable to see outside the narrow view of your own tiny little world?

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    1. Wow! Your response was extremely over the top and full of anger. What are you really angry with that you come off the way you did? So sad.

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      1. Complacent judgment is sad. May 17, 2018 at 9:00 am

        I’m angry with the idea that sometimes it’s better for closed minded people not to bring more people in the world, yet those same people act like a child is automatically better off in their sacred, close minded little world, so they can raise another generation of close minded idiots, who are complacent, probably like you. I’m sick of living in a brainwashed world full of idiots who have big opinions on things like abortion, but can’t even grasp the concept of gender equality. I’m sick of all the righteous idiots who pretend they’re protecting the rights of unborn children, WHILE shaming women who are children themselves, bc they want to end a pregnancy, and then call these people murderers when they’ve probably done or said far more hurtful things in their lives themselves. I’m sick of people assuming they’d be such better parents, when they’d likely just bring another close minded, righteous, sexist, racist idiot into the world. I’m sick of people pretending to know the world is so worse off without all the unborn babies in it, when people like Hitler, or Jeffrey Dahmer would have made good abortions, and they were probably raised by people who think they know everything, just like anti-abortionists think they do. Then there are people like you. The brainwashed lemmings who probably don’t even have any idea anymore why they even have the opinions they do, other than they were raised to feel that way. I find it annoying that there are people out there who say things like “abortion didn’t get me”, as though we’re supposed to automatically assume the world is a better place just because they’re in it. I think late term abortions are gross, because I’m just not sure how some stupid woman could allow herself to get that pregnant, and then decide to kill the baby inside her, because at that point I feel it’s a full-fledged baby regardless opinions on when a soul does, or doesn’t enter. But after all of that, after her extra sappy letter to some Doctor Who killed her twin brother….. After she gives clear opinions about how she feel abortion is wrong because of her own personal experience……………. To have this woman cite her father not having a son to go hunting, and fishing with, or carry on his name? Seriously? Are those the things people think of when it comes to being against abortion? So basically the kids hobbies and Life Style choices were already picked out for him before he even came into the world according to his gender……. that’s what I find sad. I also find people like you sad. Complacent, brainwashed, and hiding behind their anominymity without anything of value to say. You were probably raised in the same little box as the girl who wrote this boring, entitled “plea” who probably should have titled it “how my dad got stiffed out of a hunting partner, and having his name passed on.” Our world is brainwashed, complacent, and full of people who feel sorry for themselves. If this girl feels so strongly about this issue, then why doesn’t she spend time trying to change the world instead of writing stories that are supposed to make people feel bad for her. The world should piss you off, and if it doesn’t then you’re not paying attention, and that’s sad. First, and foremost this world needs to treat women better. That being said This Woman’s going to document this traumatic experience she had, and one of her biggest concerns is the loss of “boy things” her dad won’t get to experience because apparently those things can only be done with a boy. You think with all she claims to have been through, she would at least be a little bit more strong-minded then that. But she sounds submissive, and brainwashed. If you are honestly too Daft to see all this, then that means you’re probably brainwashed, and complacent too. The world should piss you off, and the people living in it who make no sense should piss you off. If it doesn’t then you’re blind, and that’s sad. The very attitude this lady carries about roles when it comes to gender makes me happy that another person wasn’t brought up with the same thinking. It is these subtle little thoughts that live in the heads of every brainwashed moron that keep us living in an oppressive world in more ways than we can count.

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