A lot of women go into having an abortion clear headed and determined, but a few months after can be overcome with questions, doubts, or confusion.
Most of this stems from contemplating the “what ifs” as time goes on, something uncontrollable and completely understandable.
Sometimes these what ifs cloud our memory and we forget how sure we once were.
I think it would be extremely beneficial for women to write their future selves a letter expressing their thoughts and feelings around the pregnancy and the choice to abort. We can go through our reasons a hundred times in the present, but wouldn’t it be nice to check in with our past self, the self that was actually pregnant. How beautiful would it be to be able to literally support yourself through time. (Sorry if that’s too matrix-y)
This of course wouldn’t apply to everyone, but if you are having an abortion, or could find yourself in that position in the future, consider writing down your reasoning and thought process, your future self may need the reminder 🙂
I wonder why a post-abortive mother would feel guilty following her ‘procedure’. Could it be because she killed her own living son or daughter? Could one of these ‘what ifs’ involve the difference between her child floating in a jar of formaldehyde or laying his or her head on her breast while cradled in her arms?
Maybe this is the letter she would read after killing her child…
Dear Future Self,
Just wanted to remind you of why I am scheduled for an abortion today. In case you have forgotten, I was dating that really hot guy I met at work and things got really heated really quick. I know I should have used birth control, but taking a pill every single day is so hard to keep up with and he really hated the loss of sensation caused by those condoms. Plus, we didn’t want to ruin the heat of the moment by having to be responsible. After all, we always knew we could dispose of any unwanted pregnancy fairly easily. People actually donate to Planned Parenthood to help people like me remove any unwanted fetuses! Sooo convenient and really helped me to lead a carefree and incredibly hot sex life without all the worry. Thanks Planned Parenthood, you rock!
Please don’t feel guilty about what I’m about to do. The thing inside me isn’t a child, just a parasite really. You know, just a clump of cells, like a blood clot. All I’m killing is the products of conception, not a human being, and definitely not a child. No way would I ever kill my own child. That’s sick and it’s illegal.
Just because I used to be a product of conception doesn’t matter. I wasn’t really a human being until that magic moment when I morphed into one on my birthday. After all, fetuses are worthless until they pop out of a vagina. So glad I won’t have to go through all that pain. Just think, you have me to thank that you don’t have all of those ugly stretch marks on your nice flat tummy. Tiger stripes – puleeeze. They are sooo ugly. No child is worth that (well, maybe I was, but I’m not about to do that to MY body).
I hope this helps you out. There’s nothing wrong with being selfish. After all, if I don’t look out for number one, who will? And the kid would have had a terrible life because I didn’t want them. No way I was going to go through having them and then give them away. That would be weird, knowing I had a kid out there somewhere. And what if they tried to find me after they grew up? Like, no. Nope, nope, nope. I am definitely making the right choice to abort. Can’t wait to get on with my life.
My Body, My Choice! Live Free!
Your Past Self
What if, instead, you fast-forward your life and consider the possibility of feeling regret and write a letter to your present self to reconsider what you are about to do…
Dear Present Self,
I know you have embraced a life free of consequences, but some decisions require a little more thought than just shouting YOLO.
I can’t stop thinking about the son or daughter I aborted. I really think she was a girl. I don’t know why, but I can’t let go of what I have done. I was with a good friend of mine the other day and she was getting her daughter ready for bed. Watching her untie the ribbons in her hair and coaching her on how to brush her teeth brought tears to my eyes. I know I would have loved the little girl you are about to kill, I just know we would have been great together.
I know it seems impossible now, but life is a journey with many paths. One of those paths leads to the greatest love of all. The love between a mother and her child. Please don’t let that abortionist hurt her. Abortion not only ends her life, it will also bring you a lifetime of regret. I struggle every day with the thought of what could have been. Every time I see a child the age of what she would have been, I die a little more inside. You can’t understand the pain you are about to feel, the remorse and torment is often unbearable.
What you’re carrying inside of you is not just a clump of cells, she’s a living human being, just like you were when you lived inside your mother’s womb. Going to that clinic will kill that little girl you will someday be desperate to hold and to share your life with. She will be your best friend and bring you so much happiness. There’s no love like a child’s love. Please don’t abandon her. Please hold on to the beautiful life you harbor inside you.
You can do this! You have the strength to protect your child’s life.
Your Future Self
Abortion kills a member of your own family and destroys the greatest love of all.