I’m stuck in a hard spot. I’m 19, head over heels for my boyfriend, but I’m pregnant. Not by my boyfriend but by an ex who raped me at work. I hadn’t been sexually active, ever. My boyfriend and I took a vow of chastity and I just don’t know what to do. I’m pregnant. About 2 months along. I don’t know how to tell him or my parents. My friend told me to get an abortion since I’m shipping out soon for the Marines. I just don’t know what to do. Help? I want to keep the baby, adopt out even.
I am so very sorry for your situation and I wish I could make it go away. Life is an extremely challenging experience. All of us are eventually presented with incredibly difficult situations. How we handle them and the choices we make define us for the rest of our lives.
The child growing inside of you is your son or daughter. He or she did not ask to be created and the manner of their conception is irrelevant to their value as a human being.
You are a mother now, and you always will be, even if you were to end your child’s life. As a mother, you should love and protect your child, against every possible threat, even the threat of your own self doubt. If you are strong enough to be a Marine, you are strong enough to be a mother to your child. Semper Fidelis – Always Faithful. Never let your child down. You and you alone hold his or her life in your hands.
Go on a long walk somewhere private with your boyfriend and tell him about your child. But before you do, you must be resolute in your decision to continue to sustain your child’s life. If he truly loves you, he will take on your child as his own. If he does this, NEVER let go of him. NEVER. If he tries to get you to abort, RUN AWAY. He will have demonstrated that how he feels is more important than how you feel, and that is a trait you do not want in a life long partner.
Adoption is a beautiful option as well. Especially an open adoption where you can visit your child as he or she grows up. You need to seriously consider this before you ever think about killing your son or daughter.
You have some serious life changing decisions to make. Just remember, you will never feel guilty about giving birth to your son or daughter, you will only feel the deepest love possible between two human beings. And this is worth all of the tears and hardship you are facing right now.
Life is beautiful, share it.