17 single and 22 weeks pregnant. I was seriously considering abortion when I first found out due to me being single, having very little money and only being a child myself. But after looking into it I just couldn’t. I don’t know what to do though, no one knows apart from my mum and she thinks it’s best to give him up for adoption. I just don’t know with either option whether or not I’ll be able to cope raising him OR giving him up.
I wish more women felt like you do. Abortion, or the act of a mother killing her own prenatal child, should not only be illegal, it should be UNTHINKABLE.
My mother became pregnant with me at 16 and gave birth to me when she was 17. I can tell you that I am happy to be here. Happy to have been able to experience the many challenges and joys of life. And especially happy to have experienced the joy of having my own children to love and cherish.
I know that you can raise your child. My mother did a great job providing for me. It wasn’t always easy, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world and neither would she. We are still best friends today because of the experiences we shared. Don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t strong enough. Most abortion advocates seem to believe that many women are weak and incapable of caring for a child. This is far from the truth. If you haven’t already, you WILL fall in love with your child and you will do everything it takes to protect them. It’s an amazing experience.
I’m also glad you are considering adoption, it’s another beautiful choice, especially open adoption where you get to see your child grow and be a part of their lives. I assume you are not from America by your use of the term ‘mum’, so I found a few adoption resources from a few different countries…
Child, Youth and Family – New Zealand
Victoria Health and Human Services – Australia
I hope one of these helps. Even if you are from some other country, these should get you started.
You have already made the right choice to sustain your child’s life. You are strong and you are amazing and you are my hero. And soon, you will be your child’s hero too.